When do you quit?

Say you started this new thing all excited thinking this would be it. It is the best relationship ever! It is the mate you dreamed of all your life, you want to bet all you have on it and you are giving it all. You are pouring your heart and soul into it and you are feeling quite confident that it will pay out in a big way. Your excitement is carrying you through some hiccups, and bumps. You are thinking this is the way it has to be, no relationship is perfect and you really have to put a lot of effort in making in happen. Just around the corner is the relationship bliss. Although the return, or rather the love-back is slow to come, you are quite confident it will work out, it has to! You put it all out just for this relationship, for this person.
And so you are really giving it all, no questions asked, but the questions start to pop-up in your head. How much longer do I need to 'work it' before it starts to pay back?
How much more do you need to give before it starts to give back?

Then one morning you wake up and you realize this is not going anywhere.
Do you just quit?

How does it look to your mate if you just quit trying? Does you mate wonder:" what does it mean if your husband don't admire you anymore? "

How do you make new Friends?

I've noticed that personal relationships have to have at least one side 'insisting' on maintaining the relationship. How often you run into people that you would really like to become friends with but nothing happens because no one pulls the trigger beyond the usual 'let's get together sometimes'. It takes a lot of effort to move it past that point. Are people really timid or just too busy? Or we just don't care to make the effort?
Do you call all the people you promised to call? Or just the ones you need to (need something from)? Do you email all the people you would really like to become friends with, or it just slips off you to-do list until it is too late?
What does it take for you to contact a person you just run into the other day and set another get together?
I am not trying to guilt you into calling people, I'm just wondering if it is me or is it one of those things...
How much effort do you put into making new friends?

Sera knows what to do with arrogant assholes

Sera is my friend. Sera is my Imaginary Friend. I love her. I am not sure if she loves me back though. She is the smart sassy one. I am the other, grumpy, kind.

Sera always wears red lipstick, the pretty red one. She always wears high heels. And she always knows just what to do and what to say.

Whenever I have a dilemma I turn to her for advice. Here is one that perpetually bothers me:
When an arrogant asshole crosses your path what should you do?

How hard is it to be rich and famous?

Seriously, how do people become famous? Is this choice or one haphazardly stumbles upon it? Does it just happen to them or do they work on it hard. Let's assume they work on it hard, and they succeed. Then what? Where do they go from there? Is it enough to just be famous or there are levels of being famous? Does the famous at the level one put some effort in becoming famous at the level two? What level is going to rehab?

Do you ever wonder how you would handle fame and fortune if it happened to you? Which famous category would you fit in? The one that parties like there is no tomorrow or the one that clings to being famous like you really mean it? Would you try to do something with it, like push for a change on any level, would you fight for a cause that you care about. Are you just saying it or do you really mean it?

Here is your DearSera question of the day: How hard is it to be rich and famous?

What's your approval rating?

We are asked to answer to someone else's poll a lot. Like what do we think B#$! did right/wrong this time, how do we approve of his handling of whatever?

Did you ever wonder how people might approve of your own actions? Like something you did last nite. Or how you told off your boss only to loose that important project the next day? Was that really heroic or just plain stupid?
How about this one: I told my sister she is not welcome in my house - do you approve of it?

Do you want to know what people think of your actions? Percentage wise.
If your approval of handling the family situation is 70%, would you rub that into your sister's face? Or just keep it for yourself.

It is called DearSera

It is called Dear Sera. Names considered:
Dear Tyra, Dear Ashli, Dear WhatShellWeCallIt,...

It is meant to be Dear Abby on steroids.

How often do you read Dear Abby and how often do you agree with the advice given? The answer to the first one is often. The answer to the second one is not so often.

I never understood how long you have to wait to find out what Abby has to say. And how do you know if she will answer to you? Ever. Or sometime soon? How about improving this a bit? How about opening the answer part to the world, or at least to anyone interested in giving the answer. Well, Dr Phil already took care of that.

Nowadays people do know what to do when faced with a problem or dilemma. It is just that they can not decide between many options available. Or rather all options seem possible and neither is a winner. So faced with many options what do you do? You turn to you friend and say which one should I pick? One friend says this, the other friend says that, and you are still not sure. Or your friends help you identify another option that you just didn't see.

How about scaling this to all the friends you have, the pattern would emerge. 20% would say option A, 45% would say option B.

Say you are very blunt and that got you into trouble many times. You believe you should stay true to yourself, see what others say about that: Should one be allowed to speak one's mind?

Here is another angle to this:

Say you have a dilemma (which shoes to buy or whether to leave your boyfriend or not). Say you pick one, your life takes the turn very different from if you'd picked another option. If you are really at a crossroad and you wonder how different your day/month/life/career would be if you picked a different option. How would you find that out? Really there is no easy way to find it out.